To keep things flowing, equitable, and positive for all, we do have some ground rules we ask everyone to abide by, including:
Consent Consent is absolutely foundational at Indulgence. We don’t want anyone to get into a situation in which they are not entirely comfortable, and no one is every expected to do anything they don’t want to do. We begin all parties with a consent circle where people can share their boundaries and expectations and everyone in the group is expected to adhere to them.
Be aware however, that we consider that coming to an Indulgence party is itself an act of consent. It’s a communal, group play party and that’s what people should expect when they arrive. If that’s not for you we kindly request you find a party that better fits what you are looking for. Health and safety We take health very seriously and ask that everyone be regularly tested for STIs, we require Covid testing the day of the party, and we have a hard requirement for condom use for penetrative sex between all non-primary partners. Read more in our Health section [Link to “Health”]
Contribute Unlike most private parties, we don’t charge a door fee for Indulgence. But we do ask that everyone pitches in a little. This consists of bringing your own alcohol, a little light appetizer, and condoms, and helping out with after-party clean up. It actually goes quite fast and can be pretty fun! Gender balance We are very sympathetic to the challenges single men face in the lifestyle, particularly so as one of our hosts is a single man. At the same time, we appreciate the importance of having an appropriate gender balance for the vibe we look to create, with the goal of having an even gender balance or at most not more than one or two additional men per party. Couples make up the bulk of our community, and we do have a number of single women who are of course always very welcome, which helps balance out the single men in the mix. As we take RSVPs for each party we pay careful attention to how the gender balance is shaping up and allow that to determine the number of single men let in from party to party